Let’s Experience It
Tsering and Tsomo both wanted the red crayon. Tsering grabbed it first. Tsomo started to grab it back. “Use your words,” their teacher said. Tsomo took a breath. “Can I please use it when you’re done?” she asked. “Yes,” said Tsering. “I’ll be done soon.” Tsomo smiled. “Thank you!” Using words worked better than grabbing!
What’s Happening?
Tsomo and Tsering had a problem. They both wanted the same thing. Tsomo almost grabbed the crayon. But grabbing can hurt feelings. It can even hurt bodies. Using words is better. Tsomo asked nicely for what she wanted. Tsering could understand her. They solved the problem together. Words help us explain how we feel and what we need.
Sometimes we make mistakes with friends. We might say something mean. We might take their toy. We might bump into them. When this happens, we can say sorry. Saying sorry means we feel bad about what we did. It helps our friend feel better. We can also forgive when someone says sorry to us. Forgiving means we let go of our angry feelings. We give our friend another chance. Everyone makes mistakes. Forgiveness helps friendships stay strong.
Making new friends takes courage. You can introduce yourself. Say “Hi, I’m [your name]. Do you want to play?” This helps you meet new people. You can also include others who are alone. If you see someone by themselves, invite them to join. Say “Do you want to play with us?” Including others is very kind. It helps everyone feel like they belong. The more friends you include, the more fun you have!
Why It Matters
Using words helps you solve problems without fighting. When you talk about problems, you find answers. You don’t hurt feelings or bodies. Friends can work things out together.
Saying sorry and forgiving keeps friendships strong. Everyone makes mistakes. If you say sorry, your friend knows you care. If you forgive, you can stay friends. Including others makes your world bigger. You meet new people. You make everyone feel welcome. Good friendships need these skills!
Try It Yourself
Practice your friendship words this week! If you want something, ask nicely using words. Try saying “May I please…” or “Can I have a turn when you’re done?” If you make a mistake with a friend, say “I’m sorry.” Mean it! If a friend says sorry to you, try to forgive them. Meet someone new! Introduce yourself to one person you don’t know well. Say your name and ask to play. Also look for someone who is alone. Invite them to join your game. At the end of the week, draw a picture of you using your friendship skills!
Remember
- Use words instead of grabbing or hitting.
- Say sorry when you make a mistake.
- Forgive others when they say sorry.
- Introduce yourself to meet new friends.
- Include others so everyone feels welcome.
- These skills make you a great friend!